So I’m at an old cafe by the beach alone and I got up to use the restroom and buy a croissant. When I returned this was in my book ~
You know when people say “What’s the alternative to cat-calling?” This. This is the alternative.
idk this would make me feel really creeped out.
yeah same my heart would freeze and then i would run out of the cafe and make sure i dumped the note in the trash somewhere
‘i have been staring at you without your knowledge and thinking about how you are attractive, i would like to watch your reaction now without you knowing which stranger i am or whether or not i am nearby still or even following you, for some reason i couldn’t keep this to myself’
“Other people shouldn’t be allowed to look at me for too long without informing me first, nor should they be too shy to talk to me in person. And if their choice of words is too flattering, and then they proceed to ask me nicely if I would like to meet, they will be deemed as a creep for being social in a way I don’t like.”
It’s not being social in a way i don’t like (though it’s that too, but that’s personal) it’s being social in a way that puts them in power over me. They’ve seen me, they’ve made a point of saying they have observed me when I cannot observe them, they might be watching me read their note, they can follow me, they know who I am, but I don’t know who they are. If I deem them a creep, that’s because they’ve been watching me and they’ve decided they want to know me based just on my looks and a judgment they made about me without hearing a word from me. If you come at someone saying ‘I have decided you are a great and lovely person just by watching you’ you’re saying ‘I have made up a personality for you based on my snap judgements and attraction to you, I hope you feel like pandering to that’. Baseless flattery is just baseless judgement, even if it’s nice
It probably isn’t scary to most people, but I have been followed around by some eerie folk, and it usually starts out this sweetly. It’s not like it’s a terrible crime, it would just skeeve me the fuck out.